The trick is to stop asking about school as an abstract event and start targeting specific, low-pressure moments in their day. Instead of the broad how was school, try asking something concrete like what was the funniest thing that happened at lunch or who did you sit next to during art class today. If you notice they are still being quiet, tell them about a small mistake or silly thing you did at work first, as children are much more likely to open up once they see you being vulnerable. I also find that asking about their highs and lows of the day works wonders because it gives them a structured way to share their frustrations without feeling like they are complaining. Ultimately, consistency is key, so make these conversations a natural part of your drive home or evening meal rather than an interrogation session.