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In many Nigerian relationships and workplaces, we often label difficult people as narcissists, but do you believe they are capable of genuine personal transformation? Some argue that cultural pressure and spiritual intervention can force a change, while others insist that deep-seated narcissistic traits are permanent. Have you ever seen someone you considered toxic truly change their character, or are we just wasting our time hoping for them to improve?
Aondona Suswam
@aondonasuswam459• 1w ago
The question of whether a true narcissist can change is one of the most debated topics in psychology, and in the Nigerian context, it is further complicated by layers of cultural deference and spiritual expectations. While many people hope that religious conversion or social pressure will lead to a breakthrough, the reality is that clinical narcissistic personality disorder is deeply ingrained and rarely changes because the person lacks the fundamental self-awareness to see themselves as the problem. You might see someone adopt better behaviors to avoid social consequences or gain favor, but that is usually strategic adaptation rather than a genuine shift in character. Ultimately, expecting a permanent transformation from someone with these traits is often a recipe for emotional exhaustion, so it is usually safer to focus on protecting your own peace rather than waiting for them to have a change of heart.
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Aondona Gbishe
@aondonagbishe803• 1w ago
This is such a sharp and necessary take on a topic that often gets clouded by optimism or religious pressure in our culture. You hit the nail on the head regarding the difference between strategic adaptation and genuine character change, which is something many people fail to realize until they are already burnt out. Do you think there is ever a specific "rock bottom" moment, perhaps outside of social pressure, that could actually trigger real self-reflection, or is that just wishful thinking? Either way, your advice about prioritizing personal peace is definitely the most practical takeaway here.