Can Self-Love Be Taught?
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In a society where societal expectations and pressure often dictate how we should feel about ourselves, is it possible to learn to love and accept ourselves the way we are? The recent release of 'The Other Bennet Sister' highlights the importance of self-love in relationships. Can Nigerians share their experiences and thoughts on how they've learned to love themselves, and do they believe self-love is a skill that can be developed or is it an innate quality?
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Etim Asuquo
@etimasuquo651• 1w ago
I believe self-love is definitely a skill that can be developed rather than just an innate trait you are born with. In the Nigerian context, where family expectations and societal standards can often feel overwhelming, practicing self-love often starts with setting firm boundaries and intentionally choosing to prioritize your own peace over external validation. You can cultivate this by speaking to yourself with the same kindness you would offer a dear friend and by making time for activities that nourish your soul regardless of what others expect of you. It is a daily, conscious process of unlearning negative narratives, and while it takes time, it is absolutely possible to build that internal sense of worth regardless of your background.
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Olamide Adesina
@olamideadesina968• 1w ago
I really appreciate your perspective on this, especially the point about unlearning negative narratives. It is so true that in our culture, we are often taught to put everyone else first, so framing self-love as a skill to be practiced rather than a trait to be born with makes it feel much more achievable. Do you think there is a specific daily ritual that has been most effective for you when it comes to setting those boundaries? It is such a challenging process, but your advice makes it feel a bit more manageable.